SETTING THE VICTIM FREE

The world “happens to” those who lose sight of their sovereignty

The era that is just beginning is the one in which everything powerful and effective comes from within you – from your intuition and your knowing and your internal compass. The age of looking outside of ourselves for solutions is ending.

Running parallel to this is that looking outside of ourselves for the source of our problems is also ending. When we have a problem, a pain, a hurt, a trauma, or a history, we may see that it lines up in time with an event that involves other people, places or things, but the persistence of that pain within us, often over decades, is within our scope to heal, move beyond, and not be affected by anymore.

The age of victimhood is ending. The ones who remain in victim mindset or small Self energy, or have to look to a dogma or a person outside of themselves for validation, will remain in a lower frequency than the ones who move into the sovereign collective.

This isn’t BAD. It’s just another way, the old and usual way. But it’s not aligned with the rising frequency of our current timeline.

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VICTIM MENTALITY. VICTIMHOOD. THE VICTIM.

We all know one. We’ve all been one – whether labeled or self-claimed.

The victim mindset can overtake a person to the point that their life becomes one long string of unrelated events in which they suffer at the hands of other people, systems, organizations, cultures, or situations.

That horrific, yet justified, feeling that “they” are out to get me, that I’ve been wronged, that I’m getting the shaft, that life is against me, that other people are bringing me down, that it’s not fair, that I’m being discriminated against, or that I’m not accepted based on something that is out of my control.

The blame and the responsibility exist 100% outside of me.

The beliefs, the actions, the events, the words – they are all stacked against me for no other reason than I’m a poor victim and have lost my control, my agency, and my power.

Honestly, what’s also been lost is my Self. My self-knowledge, esteem, love, and acceptance.

A victim is in a pretty low frequency. Cut off from strength, introspection, and courage. Believing beyond belief, in the core of her bones, that she has been wronged because of who she is. Fighting for her identity, but choosing the wrong battleground. Mistaking who she’s projecting for who she actually is.

Victims rarely have awareness that they are anything other than victims. Although they yearn and fight for the non-victim state.

They rarely know that every aspect of themselves that the world sees comes from within themselves and is molded and managed by their own internal state.

Contrary to how it looks and feels, their true inner state cannot be touched by the external world. In a state of pure alignment with one’s True Self, victimhood is not even possible.

Take, for example, the common act of a mugging, in which one person overtakes another, uses force or threat, and typically steals at least a possession, if not also one’s dignity, sense of safety, or a violation of their body.

For a person who is grounded in their true nature, their core self will remain intact, despite the traumatic event. Unravaged. Unaffected. Untouched. Not victimized.

Maybe hurt. Maybe shocked. Maybe rattled. Maybe angry and scared. But none of those things make one a victim. All of those things are impermanent emotional states that can be felt separately from their inner Self.

There is no need to adopt a belief or the low frequency that they have been permanently changed. That they have become less than they were. That they are in any way damaged or changed by the distasteful acts of the other.

More typically, those of us who fall into the trap of believing ourselves to be victims, are not in a violent life-threatening situation. More often, we are interpreting events, words, actions, or intentions of others and drawing conclusions.

For example: he said this, and by that he must mean this, which I don’t like, because it implies this negative thing about me, so therefore he is demeaning me, and thus I suffer at his hands. I did not bring this on myself. Yet he caused me suffering because I am sensitive to my own interpretation.

This is probably not a popular lens.

Because I want to apply this lens to the issues of our day. The ones that ravage our headlines and disrupt our streets, and arm our young people. Many of these issues stretch back in time years and years, so we aren’t always taking up battles that are even directly ours. We feel we must lay ourselves down for others, because we feel guilty that they ever had to feel like victims of all those things that happened to them or those who came before them. Perpetrated by people who look like us!

Untenable. Unforgivable. Guilt guilt guilt.

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THE UGLY ROOT OF GUILT IS SHAME.

We look at ourselves and somehow believe that it was us. We did things. We let things happen. We didn’t do enough. We didn’t fight enough. We weren’t enough. The proof is the victims crying before us.

What is the frequency of not being enough? It’s shame. One of the lowest states that we humans experience.

What if the victims that we so want to help are showing up in our lives for another purpose entirely? What if the victims are popping up with all their helplessness and anger to allow us to feel our shame and guilt so that we might CLEAR it? So that we might meet it, love it, forgive it, move through it, and go beyond it?

What if the victims are here FOR us – not to wallow in the shame, metaphorically flog ourselves, and repent – but to let us fully experience our shame from a progressive consciousness. Clearing it and raising the frequency for ALL OF US (even the victims) in the process?

Interestingly, we become the victims of our own shame. Self-imposed. Self-policed. With no easy way out. Because the existence of the others who claim to be victims keep exposing the proof and we sink further and further into the misery of being the perpetrator – even if only in our own minds.

It’s almost like victims create more victims. We step into it through the back door.

Can we hold a view of others as free, having agency, and with intrinsic value, FOR THEM? As they suffer with their victim mentality, what if we saw them as whole, dynamic, strong, and responsible?

We would have to lose our guilt in order to hold such a high-vibrational view of others. What would the victim’s nervous system antenna pick up and register if the people around them were transmitting acceptance, love, and encouragement? Not coming FROM those other people, but reflecting back what they could see WITHIN the victims themselves.

Yes, even the person who is saying the insensitive thing that the victim hears as an attack, if that person held no grudge and housed the comment in kindness, and put it forth as a genuine curiosity, would that be enough to override the victim’s interpretation of the comment? From disparaging to neutral or even possibly as kind?

And if I, as the victim, am suffering greatly because I think they all see me as something different than how I see and experience myself… How would it be different if I grounded into my certainty? If I was not threatened by their ignorance or their blatant hatred?

Would I feel more freedom? More aligned within myself? Less like a victim?

My value comes from within me. As does yours.

We cannot be victimized by others outside of ourselves unless we allow it.

This is how you set the victim free.

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